Terms of Service

Last updated 29 June 2026. feederism.org is run by an independent individual who is finalising some formal legal details — legal-entity registration, a service address, and the choice of governing law — with professional counsel. For any legal question, email [email protected].

Effective date: 29 June 2026 Last updated: 29 June 2026 Version: 1.0

This document supersedes and replaces any earlier "Terms of Service & Community Rules" that applied only to the community forum. From its effective date, these whole-site Terms govern your use of every part of feederism.org. Where the old forum-only terms and these Terms conflict, these Terms control.

Plain-English summary — please read this first

This is the short version. It is here to help you understand the Terms; it is not itself the agreement, and the numbered sections below are what legally control.

feederism.org is an 18+ educational site about feederism — a feeding and weight-gain interest. It is consent-first and deliberately non-explicit. It is here to help adults understand the subject thoughtfully and safely.
You must be 18 or older (or older, if adulthood begins later where you live) to use any part of the site.
There are four parts: the blog (free, public articles), the quizzes and tools, free membership accounts, and the public community forum.
The forum is public and searchable. Your forum username and the words you post can be read by other members and by anyone on the internet, including search engines. Do not post anything you need to keep private.
The quizzes are for self-reflection, not diagnosis. Nothing on this site is medical, psychological, or professional advice, and using the site does not create any professional relationship.
Feeding and weight-gain practices can carry real physical and psychological risks. We do not encourage unsafe behaviour. Please look after yourself and seek professional help where you need it.
We are not part of, and not responsible for, anything that happens between users — including any relationship, arrangement, or real-world meeting. The Site is not a dating or matching service.
The most protective terms — the limits on our liability (section 12), the indemnity (section 13), and our choice of law and courts (section 18) — apply in full only to people who hold an account and accepted these Terms by ticking the box at sign-up. If you only browse the public blog or read the forum without an account, you are bound only by the basic rules a reader can fairly be held to (section 1.4).
Be kind, be honest, keep consent at the centre, and follow the Community Guidelines. We can remove content and close accounts that break these Terms.
Your privacy matters and this subject is sensitive. How we handle your data — including data that is "special category" under EU and UK law — is explained in our Privacy Policy, which forms part of your agreement with us.

If you do not agree to these Terms, please do not use the site.

1. Introduction, acceptance, and who is bound by what

1.1. What this site is. feederism.org (the "Site") is a consent-first, non-explicit, educational resource about feederism — a feeding and weight-gain interest. It is run by one person who cares about getting this right. These Terms of Service (the "Terms") form a binding legal agreement between you and the operator identified in section 3 (the "Operator", "we", "us", "our") and govern your access to and use of the Site and everything it offers (together, the "Service").

1.2. What the Terms cover. These Terms govern all four parts of the Service:

(a) the Blog — free, public, in-depth articles;
(b) the Quizzes and Tools — the "What Kind of Feeder or Feedee Are You?" quiz, the "Couples Alignment Quiz", the hub at /quizzes/, and any similar interactive tools;
(c) Membership and Accounts — free, passwordless member accounts; and
(d) the Community Forum — the public, text-only discussion forum at https://feederism.org/forum/.

1.3. How account holders accept these Terms (clickwrap). When you create a member account, you are asked to take a separate, affirmative step — ticking a box that says you have read and agree to these Terms — which is logged with a timestamp. That tick is your acceptance, and it is the form of acceptance we rely on to bind you to the whole of these Terms, including the onerous terms identified in section 1.5. Signing in to your account, and posting in or otherwise contributing to the Forum, also confirm that the agreement remains in force between us.

1.4. How anonymous visitors are bound (and the limits of that). If you use the public parts of the Site without an account — for example, reading the Blog or reading the Forum — you have not taken the clickwrap step in section 1.3. By continuing to use the Site you agree to the basic rules that a reader can fairly be expected to follow: the 18+ requirement (section 2), the acceptable-use rules (section 6), our intellectual-property rights (section 9), and the educational / not-professional-advice disclaimers (section 10). We make these prominent precisely because we want them to apply to everyone. We do not seek to impose the onerous terms in section 1.5 on people who merely browse, because terms accepted by browsing alone (browsewrap) are often unenforceable for clauses of that kind.

1.5. The onerous terms, and who they bind. The following are "onerous terms": the limitation of liability (section 12), the indemnity (section 13), and the governing-law, jurisdiction, and dispute provisions (section 18). These onerous terms apply in full to account holders, who accepted them by clickwrap under section 1.3. For anonymous visitors who have not accepted by clickwrap, these onerous terms do not apply; instead, our responsibilities to anonymous visitors are governed by the general law and by the basic rules in section 1.4, together with the protections the law gives you in any event (sections 12.3 and 18.2). Reading the Forum is open to everyone; posting in or otherwise contributing to the Forum requires an account (section 5.7), so everyone who posts has accepted these Terms by clickwrap.

1.6. If you do not agree. If you do not agree to these Terms, or you cannot make the promises in them (for example, that you are 18 or older), you must not use the Site. If you have already created an account, you may close it (section 5.6).

1.7. Documents that form part of these Terms. The following are incorporated into these Terms by reference and form part of your agreement with us:

(a) the Privacy Policy (how we handle your data, including special-category data and cookies/storage);
(b) the Community Guidelines (the rules and culture of the Forum); and
(c) any tool-specific notices shown within a particular quiz or feature.

If there is a conflict between these Terms and an incorporated document, these Terms control unless the incorporated document expressly says it overrides them on a specific point.

2. Eligibility and the strict 18+ requirement

2.1. Strictly 18+. The Site is for adults only. You may use it only if you are at least 18 years old, or older if the age of majority where you live is higher than 18. The Site is not directed at, and must not be used by, anyone under that age.

2.2. Your age affirmation. By using the Site you affirm and warrant that you meet the age requirement in section 2.1. The Site presents an age-gate that you must pass before entering (the age-gate uses your browser's local storage to remember that you have confirmed you are an adult), and creating an account re-affirms that you are 18 or older. Passing the age-gate is a precondition of access; until you have passed it, you are not permitted to use the Site, and nothing you do before passing it counts as acceptance of these Terms.

2.3. How we apply the age measure. We state our 18+ requirement clearly and apply it consistently across the Site: the age-gate on entry, the affirmation at account creation, and our right under section 2.4 to act on anyone we reasonably believe is under-age.

2.4. Zero tolerance for minors. We may refuse, suspend, or terminate access for anyone we reasonably believe is under 18, without notice. We have zero tolerance for any participation by minors and for any content that sexualises, depicts, or involves minors (see section 8.4). Where the law requires, we report such content to the relevant authorities.

2.5. Your local law and capacity. You are responsible for ensuring that your use of the Site is lawful where you are. The legality of material about sexual interests varies between countries and regions; if accessing the Site is not lawful in your location, you must not use it. You also confirm that you have the legal capacity to enter into these Terms.

3. Who we are (Operator identity and contact)

3.1. About the name "Clair." The Site is published under the name "Clair," a pseudonym used to keep the author anonymous from the general public. "Clair" is the Site's public-facing byline and brand — it is not the legal name of the responsible person, and it is not the data controller. Behind the pseudonym stands a real, accountable individual — the Operator identified in section 3.2 — who is legally responsible for the Service and reachable at [email protected].

3.2. The legally responsible Operator. The Service is operated by the individual who publishes the Site under the pseudonym "Clair." That individual is the party legally responsible for the Service and the person you are contracting with under these Terms. A formal legal entity and a service address are being finalised with professional counsel and will be stated here once settled. In the meantime:

Operator: the independent individual who publishes the Site under the pseudonym "Clair" (formal legal-entity registration is being finalised with professional counsel)
Trading name / service: feederism.org
Service / postal address: notices can be sent by email to [email protected] (a formal postal address is being finalised)
Contact for all matters: [email protected]

3.3. All contact in one place. You can reach us about anything — general enquiries, complaints, content reports and takedown notices, copyright notices, and data-protection requests — at [email protected]. Section 20 repeats the formal contact details.

3.4. EU contact point / legal representative. Where required, we maintain a single point of contact for users and for authorities, and — where the EU Digital Services Act requires it — an EU legal representative. These arrangements are being finalised with professional counsel and the relevant contact details will be published here once settled. In the meantime, you can reach us for any such matter at [email protected].

3.5. The same identity is the data controller. The Operator named in section 3.2 is also the data controller for the purposes of EU and UK data-protection law, as stated in the Privacy Policy. The pseudonym "Clair" is not, and cannot be, the data controller; data-protection rights (such as access, correction, and erasure) are exercised against the Operator, not against the pseudonym. See section 15 and the Privacy Policy.

4. What the Service is — and what it is not

4.1. The Blog. Free, public, and search-indexable articles on the psychology, relationships, health, and self-acceptance dimensions of feederism. Anyone may read the Blog without an account.

4.2. The Quizzes and Tools. Interactive, reflective self-exploration tools. They are described, and their limits explained, in section 7.

4.3. Membership. Free member accounts, described in section 5.

4.4. The Community Forum. A public, search-indexable, text-only discussion community, described in section 8.

4.5. Provided "as is" and "as available". We provide the Service "as is" and "as available". We do not guarantee that the Site will be continuously available, uninterrupted, secure, or error-free, and we may change, suspend, add, or discontinue any part or feature of the Service at any time (see sections 12 and 17). This section is subject to the consumer-law protections preserved in sections 12.3 and 18.2.

4.6. What the Service is not. The Site is an educational and community resource. It is not:

(a) a dating, matchmaking, "feeder/feedee matching", or hookup service;
(b) a marketplace or a means of arranging real-world meetings, transactions, or relationships; or
(c) a provider of medical, psychological, nutritional, legal, or other professional services (see section 10).

We do not facilitate, broker, or take responsibility for any real-world contact, arrangement, or conduct between users. Your dealings with other users are entirely your own, and section 11.4 explains that we are not a party to and not liable for anything that happens between users.

5. Membership and accounts

5.1. Accounts are free. Membership is free. There are currently no paid tiers and no payment processing of any kind on the Site.

5.2. Passwordless sign-in. Accounts use passwordless "magic-link" sign-in: you enter your email address, and we email you a one-time link to sign in. We do not set or store a password for you. You may also choose an optional display name.

5.3. Your responsibilities. You agree to:

(a) provide an accurate email address that you control;
(b) keep your email inbox and your sign-in links secure, and not share them;
(c) use one account per person, and not share, sell, or transfer your account; and
(d) tell us promptly at [email protected] if you believe someone has accessed your account without permission.

You are responsible for activity that takes place through your account, except to the extent it results from our failure to keep the Service secure.

5.4. Display-name and username rules. Your display name and Forum username must not: impersonate another person or suggest a false affiliation; contain another person's real name or identifying details; be unlawful, hateful, harassing, or sexually explicit; or otherwise break these Terms or the Community Guidelines. We may require you to change a name that does.

5.5. Suspension and termination by us. We may suspend or terminate your account or access — with notice where it is practicable and lawful to give it, and immediately where necessary — if: you breach these Terms or the Community Guidelines; you use the Service unlawfully or in a way that risks harm to others or to the Service; we are required to by law; or we reasonably need to protect the community, you, or us. On termination, your right to use the Service ends. We explain in section 8 and the Privacy Policy what happens to any Forum posts you have made.

5.6. Closing your account; your data. You may close your account at any time by emailing [email protected]. Our Privacy Policy explains how to delete your data, what we retain and for how long, and — importantly — what happens to posts you have already made in the public Forum (because those may have been seen, quoted, cached, or indexed by others, deletion of your account cannot always erase every copy that already exists outside our control). See sections 8.1 and 8.6.

5.7. Single sign-on to the Forum; posting requires an account. Your one feederism.org member account is also your Forum login, through a single-sign-on (SSO) bridge. There is no separate Forum password. Signing in to the Site signs you in to the Forum, and the account rules in this section apply equally there. Reading the Forum is open to everyone; posting in or otherwise contributing to the Forum requires a member account, which means everyone who posts has accepted these Terms by clickwrap (section 1.3).

5.8. If we change forum or platform software. We may migrate, replace, or upgrade the software that runs the Forum, the membership system, or the SSO bridge (for example, moving from the current forum software to another platform). We will take reasonable steps so that any such migration preserves your account and your posts and does not reduce your rights, and any change in how your data is processed as a result will be reflected in the Privacy Policy. The SSO bridge and the platforms remain ours to operate, and the reverse-engineering restriction in section 6.1(c) continues to apply.

6. Acceptable use (across the whole Site)

6.1. General rules. When you use any part of the Site, you agree not to:

(a) use the Service for any unlawful purpose, or in breach of anyone else's rights;
(b) harass, abuse, threaten, stalk, defame, or harm any other person;
(c) circumvent or test the Site's security; scrape, crawl, harvest, or use bots or automated means on the Site without our permission; abuse rate limits; or reverse-engineer the SSO bridge or any other part of the Service;
(d) introduce malware or anything harmful, or interfere with the Site's infrastructure, hosting, or analytics; or
(e) take any action that places an unreasonable load on, or disrupts, the Service.

6.2. No de-anonymising, no doxxing. You must not attempt to identify or de-anonymise any other user or the Operator, or publish, threaten to publish, or solicit anyone's private or identifying information ("doxxing").

6.3. No commercial use without permission. You must not use the Site to advertise, sell, promote, solicit, recruit, or run any commercial activity without our prior written permission.

6.4. Consequences. Breaking these rules may lead to content removal, suspension, or termination (sections 5.5 and 8.8), and where appropriate, reporting to the authorities (section 8.12). Where you hold an account, a breach of this section may also engage the indemnity in section 13.

7. Quizzes and tools — reflective, not diagnostic

7.1. What the quizzes are for. The quizzes and tools are for self-reflection, education, and entertainment only. They are intended to help you think about the subject for yourself.

7.2. They are not a diagnosis or professional assessment. Quiz results are not medical, psychological, psychiatric, clinical, or diagnostic assessments, and they are not a substitute for advice from a qualified professional. Using a quiz or tool does not create any doctor–patient, therapist–client, or other professional relationship between you and us, and the results say nothing definitive about your health, identity, or relationships.

7.3. They may be wrong, and we do not warrant their accuracy. The quizzes apply simple, generalised logic to the answers you give. We do not warrant that any quiz result is accurate, reliable, complete, or suited to your circumstances, and a result may be wrong or unhelpful. This is especially true of any tool that comments on a relationship (such as the "Couples Alignment Quiz"): a result suggesting that two people are "aligned" or "misaligned" is a generalised prompt for conversation, not a verdict on your relationship. To the fullest extent the law allows, our liability for quiz outputs is governed by section 12, and the assumption-of-risk in section 11 applies to your use of the quizzes and any decisions you make in light of them.

7.4. How quiz data is handled. The quizzes run in your browser (client-side). Your answers are processed locally on your device and are not stored on our servers. We measure only anonymous, aggregate usage of the quizzes through our cookieless analytics (Umami). Creating a free account is the mechanism by which you can save or unlock your results. Full detail is in the Privacy Policy.

7.5. No reliance. You should not rely on quiz results to make important decisions about your health, relationships, or life. You make any such decisions at your own discretion and risk (see sections 11 and 12).

8. The Community Forum and user content

8.1. The Forum is PUBLIC and SEARCHABLE — please read this before you post. The Forum is public and indexable by search engines. This means your Forum username, the text you post, and the fact that you posted are visible to other members and to anyone on the open internet, including search engines. Treat everything you post as public and permanent:

Do not post anything you need to keep private, including anything that could identify you if you wish to stay anonymous.
Because the entire Site concerns feederism, anything you post may reveal information about your sex life or sexual orientation — which is "special category" data under EU and UK law (see section 15). If you choose to post it, you are choosing to make that sensitive information public by your own action.
Once something is public, other people may read, quote, screenshot, cache, or index it. Even if you later delete it or close your account, we cannot guarantee that every copy elsewhere can be removed (see sections 5.6 and 8.6).

8.2. Text only — no media and no links. The Forum is text-only. You must not post (and the Forum is configured to discourage or block) images, video, audio, file attachments, or links/URLs. Please keep your contributions in words.

8.3. Community Guidelines. The Community Guidelines set out the culture and the detailed rules of the Forum and are incorporated into these Terms. You agree to follow them.

8.4. Prohibited content and conduct. You must not post, share, or seek any of the following (this list is illustrative, not exhaustive):

(a) Child sexual abuse material (CSAM), any sexualisation of minors, or any age-play or content presented as involving minors — absolute zero tolerance. We remove such content and report it to the relevant authorities and/or hotlines that apply to us. We do not retain such material on our own initiative; any preservation of records is done only under the direction of, and to the extent required by, law enforcement or applicable law, and not as a self-imposed duty, because handling such material is itself a criminal-exposure area.
(b) Non-consensual content of any kind — content depicting, encouraging, promoting, or instructing non-consensual acts or coercion, including force-feeding without consent.
(c) Content that promotes serious harm to health. Given the feeding and weight-gain subject of this Site, this is especially important: you must not post content that glorifies or encourages dangerous practices, serious bodily harm, eating disorders, "pro-ana"/pro-eating-disorder material, self-harm, or otherwise unsafe behaviour. Discussing health and risk honestly and supportively is welcome; encouraging people to hurt themselves is not. (See the health disclaimer and signposting in section 10.3.)
(d) Harassment, bullying, threats, stalking, hate speech, or discrimination against any person or group.
(e) Doxxing — sharing or threatening to share anyone's private or identifying information — or sharing anyone's intimate images without their consent.
(f) Illegal content of any kind, incitement to crime, terrorism, trafficking, or the solicitation of minors.
(g) Spam, scams, commercial advertising, recruitment, or off-topic disruption.
(h) Impersonation of any person, or content that infringes anyone's copyright, trademark, or other rights.
(i) Sexually explicit material, which is inconsistent with the Site's non-explicit policy. For these Terms, "sexually explicit material" means pornographic content — that is, content whose principal purpose is sexual arousal and which contains explicit, graphic description of sexual acts or genitalia of a kind that would meet the threshold for "pornographic material" under applicable law. Honest, frank, and even sexual discussion of feederism — including describing experiences, feelings, attraction, and relationships in words — is permitted; what is prohibited is pornographic depiction as just defined. This boundary is what keeps the Site non-explicit for the purposes of section 8.2.

8.5. Consent-first is a rule, not just a value. The Site's consent-first ethic is a binding rule of the Forum. You agree to centre consent, respect, and care for others in everything you post.

8.6. The licence you give us for what you post. You keep ownership and copyright in the content you post ("User Content"). So that we can actually run and improve the Service, you grant us a non-exclusive, worldwide, royalty-free, sublicensable, and transferable licence to host, store, copy, reproduce, display, publish, distribute, and make publicly available your User Content for the purposes of operating, securing, moderating, promoting, and improving the Service — including necessary technical steps such as caching and delivery through our CDN/reverse proxy (Cloudflare), search-indexing of the public Forum, moderation, and backups. This licence is what allows your post to appear publicly on the Forum.

When you delete a post, or close your account, the licence in the previous paragraph ends, except that:

(a) for the period reasonably necessary to give effect to the deletion — for example, to purge our active systems, our own CDN cache, and our own search index, and to propagate the removal — the licence continues to the limited extent needed to carry out that removal in an orderly way;
(b) we may retain residual copies in backups, in moderation/legal records, or in security logs for as long as is reasonably necessary for backup, security, legal-compliance, or technical reasons (these copies are not republished); and
(c) we have no control over, and give no licence in respect of, copies that other people or third-party services have already lawfully made, quoted, cached, or indexed before deletion (see section 8.1).

This is why deleting a post removes it from the live Forum but cannot guarantee that every copy everywhere disappears. There is no contradiction between this section and section 8.1: deletion ends your post's presence on the live Forum and ends our right to keep publishing it, while the limited carve-outs above describe only the orderly-removal window, our private retained copies, and copies outside our control.

8.7. Your promises about what you post. You represent and warrant that: you own or have the necessary rights to post your User Content; your User Content does not infringe anyone's rights or break the law; and you are responsible for what you post.

8.8. Our moderation rights. We may (but are not obliged to) review, edit, refuse, remove, restrict, or hide any User Content, and suspend or terminate any account, that we reasonably consider breaks these Terms, the Community Guidelines, or the law, or that we otherwise consider harmful to the community. We are not obliged to pre-screen User Content, and the fact that content appears on the Forum does not mean we have reviewed or endorsed it. We keep records of moderation actions.

8.9. Reporting content (notice and action), and expeditious removal of illegal content. If you see content you believe is illegal or breaks these Terms, please report it to [email protected], with enough detail to find it (for example, a quotation of the post and a short description of the problem, and — for illegal content — an explanation of why it is unlawful and, where you can, where it is). This is our notice-and-action mechanism. When we obtain actual knowledge or awareness that specific content is illegal — whether through a report, our own moderation, or otherwise — we will act expeditiously to remove or disable access to it, consistent with the hosting-defence standard under the EU e-Commerce Directive and the EU Digital Services Act. For content that breaks these Terms or the Community Guidelines but is not unlawful, we will review valid reports and act where appropriate.

8.10. Telling you why (statement of reasons). Where we remove or restrict your content or your account, we will, where the law requires and where it is practicable and lawful, give you a clear statement of the main reason for what we did, including (where applicable) whether the decision was based on these Terms or on a legal requirement, and how to challenge it under section 8.11.

8.11. Querying or appealing a decision (internal complaint-handling). If you believe we have wrongly removed or restricted your content or your account, or wrongly declined to act on a report you made, you can ask us to review the decision by emailing [email protected] within a reasonable time, explaining why you think the decision was wrong. We will reconsider the decision in good faith, have it looked at afresh where practicable rather than by rote, and tell you the outcome with reasons. We aim to handle such complaints promptly. This lightweight internal route is provided so that there is a meaningful appeal mechanism whether or not the heavier formal internal-complaint-handling duties of the Digital Services Act apply to us.

8.12. Law enforcement and data preservation. Where necessary to comply with the law, respond to lawful requests, or protect people from harm, we may report content or conduct to law enforcement and preserve relevant data (such as the Forum username, the associated email, post content, IP address, and moderation records). How we handle this data is explained in the Privacy Policy. The special position of CSAM is dealt with in section 8.4(a): we do not retain such material on our own initiative and act only under law-enforcement direction.

8.13. We are not responsible for User Content. User Content reflects the views of the people who post it, not ours. We do not endorse, and are not responsible or liable for, User Content or for anything users do with it, to the fullest extent the law allows. As a host of content provided by others, we rely on the protections available to hosting/intermediary services under applicable law (including the EU e-Commerce Directive and the EU Digital Services Act), which depend on our acting expeditiously on actual knowledge of illegal content (section 8.9).

9. Our intellectual property (the Site's own content)

9.1. What we own. Except for User Content, we (or our licensors) own the Site and everything in it — including the Blog articles, the quizzes and tools, the design, look and feel, branding, the "feederism.org" name and marks, and the underlying code and configuration. These are protected by intellectual-property laws.

9.2. Your limited licence to use the Site. We grant you a limited, personal, non-exclusive, non-transferable, revocable licence to access and use the Site for your own, non-commercial use, in line with these Terms. All rights we do not expressly grant are reserved.

9.3. What you may not do. Except as the law allows or we permit in writing, you must not copy, scrape, republish, redistribute, frame, mirror, or create derivative works from the Site's content, or use it to train, build, or develop any machine-learning or AI system or dataset, or for any text/data-mining. (This restriction concerns our content; the licence you grant us for your content is in section 8.6.)

9.4. Feedback. If you send us non-confidential, non-proprietary suggestions or feedback about the Site, you agree we may use them freely, without restriction and without any obligation to you. You are not obliged to send us feedback, and you should not send us anything you regard as confidential or proprietary; this clause is intended to cover ordinary suggestions, not to take ownership of substantial creative or proprietary contributions.

10. Educational purpose and "not professional advice"

10.1. General information only. Everything on the Site is general educational information about the subject. It is not medical, psychological, psychiatric, nutritional, legal, financial, or other professional advice, and must not be treated as such.

10.2. No professional relationship. Using the Site does not create any doctor–patient, therapist–client, lawyer–client, or other professional relationship between you and us. Do not act on, or refrain from acting on, anything you read here without first getting advice from a suitably qualified professional about your own situation.

10.3. Health and safety — please take this seriously. Feeding and weight-gain practices, and significant changes in body weight, can carry real physical and psychological health risks. Nothing on the Site is intended to encourage unsafe behaviour. If you have concerns about your physical or mental health, your eating, or your relationship with food or your body, please speak to a qualified healthcare professional. If you are struggling with an eating disorder or thoughts of self-harm, please reach out to a doctor or to a relevant support organisation in your country, such as a national eating-disorder charity or crisis helpline.

10.4. No endorsement. We do not endorse any particular practice, lifestyle, product, service, or any statement made by a user. References to anything on the Site are for information only.

10.5. Accuracy. We try to be accurate, but we do not warrant that the Site's content is complete, current, or error-free; it may become out of date.

11. Assumption of risk and interactions between users

11.1. You use the Site at your own risk. To the fullest extent the law allows, you acknowledge and voluntarily assume all risks of using the Site, engaging with its subject matter, interacting with other users, and acting on any information you find here.

11.2. Specific risks you accept. This includes, in particular: the physical, psychological, and emotional risks inherent in the subject matter; the risk of public exposure when you post in the Forum (see section 8.1), since the Forum is public and searchable; and the risk that quiz outputs may be wrong or unsuitable for you (see section 7.3).

11.3. Your choices are your own. You are solely responsible for your own decisions and your real-world conduct, including any contact or arrangement you choose to make with another person.

11.4. We are not party to anything between users. The Site lets people read and (with an account) post text. We are not a party to, and are not responsible or liable for, any interaction, communication, relationship, arrangement, meeting, or conduct between users, whether on the Site or off it. This matters here because feeding and weight-gain practices can involve real physical and emotional risk between partners: any such practice, arrangement, or relationship is entirely a matter between the people involved, who are responsible for their own consent, safety, and conduct. We do not vet, verify, introduce, match, or supervise users, and we disclaim liability for harm one user may cause another, to the fullest extent the law allows. This section does not remove any rights you have that cannot be waived under the law (see sections 12.3 and 18.2).

12. Disclaimer of warranties and limitation of liability

12.1. No warranties. To the fullest extent permitted by law, the Service is provided "as is" and "as available", and we disclaim all warranties not expressly stated in these Terms — including implied warranties of satisfactory quality, fitness for a particular purpose, accuracy, and non-infringement, and any warranty that the Service will be uninterrupted, timely, secure, or error-free.

12.2. Limitation of liability. This section 12.2 applies to account holders, who accepted it by clickwrap (sections 1.3 and 1.5); it does not impose limits on anonymous visitors beyond what the general law provides (section 1.4). To the fullest extent permitted by law, and subject to section 12.3, we are not liable for any indirect, incidental, special, consequential, or punitive loss, or for any loss of data, profits, goodwill, or opportunity, arising from your use of (or inability to use) the Service, including from any quiz output (section 7.3) or from any interaction between users (section 11.4).

For consumers, we do not seek to impose any fixed monetary cap on our liability; instead, our liability for direct loss is limited only as the general law allows, and the protections in section 12.3 always apply.

12.3. What we do NOT exclude (your protected rights). Nothing in these Terms excludes or limits our liability for: (a) death or personal injury caused by our negligence; (b) fraud or fraudulent misrepresentation; or (c) any other liability that cannot be excluded or limited under the law that applies to you — including the mandatory statutory rights of consumers in the EU and the UK. Those rights are preserved in full and are not affected by anything in these Terms.

12.4. Plain reading; no rewriting against consumers. These limitations are meant to be read fairly and in plain language, and not to take away rights the law says you must keep. If any part of sections 12.1–12.2 is found to be unfair or unenforceable against a consumer, it is struck out to that extent and is not read down, narrowed, or rewritten so as to remain partly enforceable against that consumer (this reflects the consumer-law rule that unfair terms are not "blue-pencilled" but disapplied); the rest of these Terms continues in force (section 19.1). For any non-consumer, sections 12.1–12.2 apply to the maximum extent the law allows and are read down only where necessary.

13. Indemnification

13.1. Who this applies to. This section applies only to account holders, who accepted it by clickwrap (sections 1.3 and 1.5). It does not apply to anonymous visitors.

13.2. Indemnity (with consumer limits). To the extent permitted by the law that applies to you, you agree to indemnify the Operator (and our agents and service providers) against claims, losses, liabilities, and reasonable costs (including reasonable legal fees) brought by a third party and arising out of: (a) your User Content; (b) your breach of these Terms or the Community Guidelines; (c) your unlawful use of the Service; or (d) your infringement of anyone else's rights.

If you are a consumer, this indemnity is limited so as not to create any liability greater than your ordinary liability at law for the matters in (a)–(d): you are responsible for loss you actually and foreseeably cause by those matters, and nothing in this section requires a consumer to pay open-ended or disproportionate sums, or to cover losses that were not actually caused by you. We will not seek to enforce this indemnity against a consumer to any extent that would be unfair under the EU Unfair Contract Terms Directive 93/13/EEC or the UK Consumer Rights Act 2015. The broader, unqualified indemnity in 13.2 applies only to non-consumer/business users.

13.3. Conduct of claims. We may, at our option, take sole control of the defence of any matter you are required to indemnify, and you agree to cooperate with us; you must not settle any such matter in a way that affects us without our written consent (such consent not to be unreasonably withheld). We will not, by controlling the defence, increase your liability beyond what this section otherwise allows.

14. Copyright and reporting infringement (DMCA)

14.1. We respect intellectual property. If you believe content on the Site infringes your copyright, you may send a notice to [email protected]. Please include: (a) your signature (physical or electronic); (b) identification of the copyrighted work you say is infringed; (c) identification of the material you say is infringing and where it is on the Site (e.g. a quotation or description); (d) your contact details; (e) a statement that you have a good-faith belief the use is not authorised; and (f) a statement that the information is accurate and, under penalty of perjury, that you are the rights-holder or authorised to act for them.

14.2. Counter-notice. If your content was removed and you believe that was a mistake or that you are authorised to post it, you may send a counter-notice to [email protected] with the equivalent information, and we will follow the applicable counter-notice process.

14.3. Repeat infringers. We will, in appropriate cases, terminate the accounts of repeat infringers.

15. Privacy, data protection, and special-category data

15.1. See the Privacy Policy. How we collect, use, share, and protect your personal data is explained in full in our Privacy Policy, which forms part of these Terms.

15.2. Who the data controller is. The data controller — the legal person who decides why and how your personal data is processed, and against whom you exercise your data-protection rights — is the Operator named in section 3.2, not the pseudonym "Clair." The Privacy Policy names the same controller. (See section 3.5.)

15.3. Special-category data and its legal bases. Because the whole Site concerns feederism, data about you can reveal information about your sex life or sexual orientation — "special category" data under EU and UK law (Article 9 GDPR). This applies site-wide, not only in the Forum. We do not rely on a single condition for all of it. We rely on your explicit consent (Article 9(2)(a)) for the things you actively choose to do — creating an account, taking a quiz, subscribing to the newsletter, or posting in the Forum — captured separately in the privacy/consent flow; while other processing (such as cookieless analytics, server and security logs, and moderation and safety records) rests on other Article 9 conditions — for example Article 9(2)(g) (substantial public interest) and Article 9(2)(f) (legal claims) — and, for what you post publicly in the Forum, the "manifestly made public" condition. The full, per-purpose breakdown is in the Privacy Policy. Using the Site is not, by itself, "explicit consent" — these Terms are not the consent mechanism, and accepting them is not the same as giving that consent.

15.4. Where your data is processed (high level). Our servers and database are hosted with Hetzner in Finland (EU). We also use Cloudflare (US — CDN, reverse proxy, and security; it terminates TLS and so processes visitors' IP addresses and traffic in transit, which can include requests that themselves reveal an interest in the subject) and SMTP2GO (US — transactional email such as magic-links and Forum notifications). The safeguards for any international transfers (such as Standard Contractual Clauses / the EU–US Data Privacy Framework) are detailed in the Privacy Policy.

15.5. Cookies and storage. We use essential session cookies only (for your member session and your Forum session), browser localStorage for the 18+ age-gate, and cookieless analytics (Umami). We use no advertising or tracking cookies and no third-party trackers. Full detail is in the Privacy Policy.

15.6. Your rights. You can access, correct, export, or delete your data, object to certain processing, and withdraw your consent at any time. To exercise any right, see the Privacy Policy or email [email protected].

16. Third-party links and services

16.1. Third-party resources. The Site or the Forum may occasionally refer to third-party resources, organisations, or services (for example, support resources signposted under section 10.3). We are not responsible for third-party content, websites, or services, or for the practices of third parties, and we do not endorse them.

16.2. At your own risk. Any dealing you have with a third party is between you and them, at your own risk.

17. Changes to these Terms and to the Service

17.1. We may update these Terms. We may change these Terms from time to time. When we do, we will post the updated version with a new "Last updated" date and version number, and — for material changes — we will notify members by email where it is appropriate to do so.

17.2. How changes take effect, and renewed acceptance for material changes. For non-material changes, your continued use of the Site after the change takes effect means you accept the updated Terms. For material changes — and always for any change that introduces a new onerous term (for example, any arbitration or class-action provision, a new liability limit, or a new indemnity) — we will, for account holders, ask you to accept the updated Terms again by a fresh clickwrap step at your next sign-in, and the material change will not bind you until you do. We will not treat anonymous browsing as acceptance of a material change, and we will not apply a material change retroactively to your disadvantage in a way the law does not allow. If you do not agree to a change, you must stop using the Site and may close your account (section 5.6).

17.3. Changes to the Service. We may change, suspend, add, or discontinue any part or feature of the Service, as described in section 4.5 (and, for platform migrations, section 5.8).

18. Governing law, jurisdiction, and disputes

18.1. Who section 18 binds. This section 18 forms part of the onerous terms that bind account holders by clickwrap (sections 1.3 and 1.5). For anonymous visitors who have not accepted by clickwrap, any dispute is governed by the generally applicable law, including the mandatory consumer protections in section 18.2.

18.2. Governing law and courts. The governing law and the courts that will handle any dispute are being confirmed with professional counsel and will be stated here once finalised. This does not affect any mandatory consumer-protection rights you have under the law of your own country of residence — and, in particular, this clause is subject always to section 18.3.

18.3. Your mandatory consumer protections. If you are a consumer in the EU or the UK (or elsewhere with similar protections), nothing in section 18.2 takes away the protection of the mandatory laws of the country where you live, and you keep the right to bring proceedings in your home courts. Our choice of law and courts cannot deprive you of those rights (in line with EU/UK consumer-protection rules and Rome I).

18.4. Let's try to sort it out first. Before starting formal proceedings, we ask that you contact us at [email protected] so we can try to resolve the matter informally. We will engage with you in good faith.

18.5. EU online dispute resolution / ADR. Where applicable, EU consumers may have access to alternative dispute resolution (ADR) and the EU online dispute resolution framework. Any required ADR/ODR signposting will be added here where it applies.

18.6. No forced arbitration / class-action waiver for EU/UK consumers. These Terms do not require you to arbitrate, and do not waive your right to bring or join a class or representative action, to any extent that the law that protects you does not allow. If any arbitration or class-action-waiver provision is ever introduced (for example, for US users), it must expressly exclude EU and UK consumers, who keep their right to local courts and to their mandatory consumer protections, and — for account holders — it would be a material change requiring fresh clickwrap acceptance under section 17.2.

19. General

19.1. Severability (and no rewriting of unfair consumer terms). If any part of these Terms is found to be invalid or unenforceable, that part is severed and the rest remains in force. Where the invalid part is a term that is unfair to a consumer, it is simply struck out and is not read down or rewritten so as to keep operating against that consumer (consistent with section 12.4); in all other cases, the invalid part is read down only to the minimum extent necessary to make it valid.

19.2. Entire agreement. These Terms, together with the documents incorporated by reference in section 1.7, are the entire agreement between you and us about the Service, and replace any earlier terms (including the prior forum-only terms). Nothing here limits liability for fraud.

19.3. No waiver. If we do not enforce a right or provision, that is not a waiver of it, and we may still enforce it later.

19.4. Assignment. We may assign or transfer these Terms (for example, as part of a reorganisation or transfer of the Service), provided your rights under these Terms are not reduced. Any transfer of personal data as part of such a transaction is subject to the separate requirements of data-protection law and our Privacy Policy: because much of the data on this Site is special-category data (processed on the basis of your explicit consent, or — for some processing — other Article 9 conditions set out in the Privacy Policy), that data is not freely transferable on a sale of the business, and any such transfer would be made only in a way consistent with the consent you gave and applicable law. You may not assign or transfer your rights or obligations under these Terms without our consent.

19.5. No third-party rights. Except as required by the mandatory consumer-protection laws that apply to you, no one other than you and us has any right to enforce these Terms.

19.6. Force majeure. We are not responsible for any failure or delay caused by events beyond our reasonable control (for example, infrastructure or hosting failures, attacks, or actions of third-party providers).

19.7. Survival. Sections that by their nature should continue after these Terms end survive termination — including section 6 (acceptable use, to the extent breaches occurred before termination), sections 8.6 (licence and its carve-outs) and 8.7 (your warranties about User Content), section 9 (our IP), section 10 (disclaimers), section 11 (assumption of risk and interactions between users), section 12 (warranties and liability), section 13 (indemnity), section 15 (privacy cross-reference), and section 18 (governing law and disputes).

19.8. Headings and language. Headings are for convenience only. If these Terms are translated, the English version prevails, subject to any consumer's right to rely on the version in the language in which the Terms were presented to them.

20. Contact

20.1. Reach us at: [email protected] — for general enquiries, complaints, content reports and takedowns, copyright notices, appeals under section 8.11, and data-protection requests.

20.2. Formal provider details:

Operator: the independent individual who publishes the Site under the pseudonym "Clair" (formal legal-entity registration is being finalised with professional counsel)
Service / postal address: by email to [email protected] (a formal postal address is being finalised)
Email: [email protected]
EU contact point / legal representative (where required): being finalised with professional counsel; in the meantime, contact [email protected]

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