FEEDERISM.ORGFree tool · 15–25 min, together

The Agreement Builder

Feederism asks more of consent than most kinks, because a body changes and a "yes" ages. This tool walks the two of you through writing your understanding down: what you're saying yes to, where the lines are, how fast, and how you'll keep checking that it still feels good. You leave with a document you both signed off on, made to be revisited.

For adults 18+ · A communication tool, not a legal contract or medical advice.

Runs entirely in your browser Nothing is uploaded, ever Free, no account, no catch

What this is

Couples who practise feederism happily tend to have one thing in common: the important things were said out loud, early, and more than once. This tool structures that conversation. Sit down together (one screen is fine), move through eight short steps, and it assembles your answers into a written agreement: scope, desires in your own words, hard limits, autonomy protections, pace, check-ins, and health guardrails. Print it, save it as a file, or copy it. Then put a date in the calendar and revisit it, because the most important clause in any kink agreement is the one that says it can change.

Three protections are built into every agreement this tool produces and cannot be unchecked: nothing is ever added to food or drink covertly, a "no" is a complete answer, and either partner can pause everything at any time. If those three don't work for one of you, the conversation you need is bigger than this tool; our guide and support resources are the places to start.

Frequently asked questions

Is this a legal document?

No. It's a communication artifact: a record of what you both understood and agreed to on a given date. Its power is relational, not legal. Couples therapists use written agreements this way across many kinds of relationships.

Do you store our agreement?

No. The tool runs entirely in your browser and nothing you type is transmitted anywhere. A draft is kept in your own browser's local storage so you can finish later on this device, and you can erase it with one click. When you print or download, that file exists only where you put it.

We're not doing weight gain, just play. Is this still for us?

Yes. The scope step includes fantasy-only and play-without-gain options, and the agreement adapts. Plenty of couples use an agreement precisely to say "this stays play."

What if we disagree during the process?

Then the tool did its job early. Pause, keep the draft, and come back. A disagreement discovered at a keyboard costs nothing; the same disagreement discovered mid-lifestyle costs a lot.

Should we do the couples quiz first?

It helps: the Couples Alignment Quiz shows you where your desires and limits sit before you negotiate them. Quiz first, agreement second is the natural order.

This tool is for adults 18+ and is not legal, medical, or psychological advice. It cannot verify consent; only the two of you can. If pressure, guilt, or fear is part of how food works in your relationship, that is beyond any agreement's power to fix. Support resources.