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Fat Admirer, Feeder, or Feedee — Which Fits You?

Three interests get tangled together and mislabelled all the time: loving a fat body as it is, loving to feed and encourage, and loving to be fed and gain. They overlap, but they're not the same — and knowing which is yours makes everything clearer.

For adults 18+ · A reflective self-understanding tool — not a diagnosis.

About this tool

Three words get used as if they mean the same thing, and they don't. A fat admirer is attracted to a fat body as it is. A feeder is drawn to the act of feeding and encouraging, and often to the idea of a partner changing. A feedee is drawn to being fed and to gaining. They overlap constantly — most feeders admire the results, most feedees find their own softness appealing — but the engine underneath is different in each, and mistaking one for another causes a surprising amount of confusion and mismatched relationships.

This quiz separates the three so you can see which is actually yours, and whether you're a blend. It's descriptive, not prescriptive: none of these is more legitimate than the others, and 'I'm mostly an admirer who isn't really into the feeding' is as valid an answer as any. For the wider map, our psychology of feederism and the research and case studies put all of this in context.

How it works

Fifteen statements on a five-point agreement scale, five for each of the three interests, with reverse-worded items so a habit of agreeing can't skew the result. You get your primary pull, a note if you're genuinely a blend of two, and a plain-English explanation of what each term means and where it goes next. Your answers stay on this page; we count anonymous completions only.

The three interests it tells apart

Fat admiration
Attraction to a fat or soft body as it is — the state itself, independent of any feeding, gaining, or change.
The feeder pull
Attraction to the act and the process: feeding, encouraging, indulging, and the idea of a partner changing because of you.
The feedee pull
Attraction to receiving: being fed, indulged, encouraged, and the idea of your own body softening and growing.

The results, explained

A non-personalised overview of every result this tool can return. Take the reflection above for your own.

Fat Admirer
Your answers point to fat admiration: the pull is the body itself, soft and heavy and exactly as it is, rather than any feeding or gaining. In the research literature this is closest to adipophilia — an attraction to fatness as a state — and it's the broadest and most common of the three interests by a wide margin. Fat admirers are simply people who find bigger bodies beautiful, full stop; there needn't be any feeding, any change, or any kink involved at all. It overlaps the feeder world (many feeders are admirers too), but it's a distinct thing, and plenty of admirers never step into feeding at all.
Feeder
Your answers point to the feeder pull: what moves you is the act and the process — feeding, encouraging, indulging, and the idea of a partner changing because of you — more than any fixed body or size. This is the giving end of feederism, and at its healthy centre it's a form of care turned erotic: providing, delighting in someone's enjoyment, being the reason they feel indulged and wanted. It overlaps fat admiration (most feeders find the results beautiful too) but the engine is different: for you it's the feeding that's the point, not just the fatness.
Feedee
Your answers point to the feedee pull: the charge is in receiving — being fed, indulged, encouraged — and often in the idea of your own body softening and growing. This is the gaining end of feederism, and its psychology is richer than outsiders assume: research and community accounts describe it running on surrender, being cared for, permission, and the erotic relief of an appetite that's celebrated instead of policed. Being a feedee doesn't require any particular real-world goal; for many it lives mostly in fantasy and play. It overlaps self-directed fat admiration, but the defining note is the wanting to be fed, not just to be fat.

Every statement in this reflection

All 15 statements, answered on a 5-point scale. Some are reverse-worded on purpose.

  1. A soft, heavy body exactly as it is — not gaining, not changing — is what draws me.
  2. It's the body itself I love, more than anything done to it or with it.
  3. I'd be just as attracted to a partner who stayed exactly their size forever.
  4. Images of bigger bodies at rest appeal to me more than the idea of eating or feeding.
  5. Honestly, a body on its own does little for me — it's the eating and the changing that moves me.
  6. Feeding someone I'm attracted to — being the one who provides and encourages — is the real charge.
  7. Watching someone indulge, enjoy, and be encouraged is a big part of the appeal for me.
  8. The idea of a partner slowly changing because of me is powerfully appealing.
  9. I'm more drawn to the act of feeding than to any particular body or size.
  10. Being the one who feeds and encourages doesn't really do anything for me.
  11. Being fed, indulged, and encouraged is where the pull is strongest for me.
  12. The idea of my own body softening and growing is a turn-on.
  13. I'd rather be the one receiving and gaining than the one feeding.
  14. Being encouraged to eat, told to have a little more, is deeply appealing.
  15. The thought of being fed or gaining myself doesn't really appeal to me.

Frequently asked questions

What's the difference between a fat admirer and a feeder?

A fat admirer is attracted to a fat or soft body as it is — the state. A feeder is attracted to the process of feeding, encouraging, and often to the change itself. The simplest test: if a partner never gained or lost an ounce, would the attraction hold? For a pure admirer, completely; for a feeder, something essential would be missing, because the changing was part of the charge. Most people are somewhere on the spectrum between, which is exactly what this quiz measures.

Can I be more than one of these?

Almost everyone is, to some degree. The three interests stack rather than compete: the majority of feeders and feedees are also fat admirers, and plenty of people hold both the feeder and feedee pulls (that blend is often called a 'switch'). The quiz gives you your strongest pull and flags a genuine blend when two come out close. Being a mix isn't indecision — it's just accurate.

Is being a fat admirer a fetish?

Not inherently. Attraction to bigger bodies (sometimes called adipophilia in the literature) is simply a body-type preference, as ordinary as any other, and for most admirers there's no kink involved at all. It becomes part of feederism specifically when feeding or gaining is eroticised on top of the admiration. Both are entirely legitimate between consenting adults; they're just different things, which is the whole point of telling them apart.

Does this quiz assume I'm into feederism?

No — that's why 'fat admirer' is a full result on its own. You can take this and discover that you love bigger bodies but the feeding and gaining aren't really your thing, and that's a real, complete answer, not a half-finished one. The quiz is designed to let you find that out without nudging you anywhere.

Is this quiz private?

Yes. Your answers stay in your browser and are never stored or sent anywhere; we count anonymous completions only. If you save your result to a free account at the end, only the result itself is saved, never your answers.

Sources & further reading

This is a light, descriptive reflection for adults 18+, not a diagnosis and not a test you can fail. Attraction is allowed to be exactly what it is. If any of this carries real shame or distress for you, that's worth talking through — with someone you trust, or a kink-aware professional who won't judge the interest.

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